Friends on the bench is a short audio about the importance of the self. In most traditions the self is seen as the enemy. I differ here. To make a comparison think of the bones in the spinal column. When the individual vertebra become stuck or have limited movement there is a corresponding pain that arises. Ask anyone with neck pain, back pain or sciatica, they will tell you about the impact of the pain. Pain arises from a misalignment. Your first thought isn’t to cut out the vertebra!
The same is true in spiritual matters. The self as we think of it is not the issue. When the self is aligned with every aspect of you, you do not even know the self is there. When we are misaligned then issues arise and the ‘self’ is seen as the problem. What you are seeing is the impact and pain of misalignment.
You are valuable, wonderful, special. You do not come with spare parts and that includes the self. Take care of yourself.